I am grateful for what is missing from the attached article "The New Macho", because it's helping me be clear about something important. "Choice" is missing from the article. It exhaustively describes loving acts but doesn't once talk about what MAKES them loving... Choice. I can cite any characteristic from the article and turn it into either a good or bad thing by changing the underlying choice for doing it. As an example, the first item cited as a good quality for a man: "He cleans up after himself." This is deceiving, and I'll prove it. If a man cleans up after himself because he knows it is a good choice for him, that is good. If a man cleans up after himself only because he is told it's a good choice for him, that's bad. Making reactive choices is wrong... it makes them conditional. Making choices in an unconditional way is what makes an act truly valuable... the independent selflessness... the unconditional nature ...