Comment on 'The New Macho'
I am grateful for what is missing from the attached article "The New Macho", because it's helping me be clear about something important.
"Choice" is missing from the article. It exhaustively describes loving acts but doesn't once talk about what MAKES them loving... Choice.
I can cite any characteristic from the article and turn it into either a good or bad thing by changing the underlying choice for doing it.
As an example, the first item cited as a good quality for a man:
"He cleans up after himself."
This is deceiving, and I'll prove it.
If a man cleans up after himself because he knows it is a good choice for him, that is good.
If a man cleans up after himself only because he is told it's a good choice for him, that's bad.
Making reactive choices is wrong... it makes them conditional. Making choices in an unconditional way is what makes an act truly valuable... the independent selflessness... the unconditional nature of it. This characteristic is not something that can be forced. For a man to become selfless, he must first be treated selflessly. That is how he learns how to be that way... by having others do it to him.
If you are a man, this is for you... Your value is not based on what you do or don't do for others. You are valuable... Period. Your choices do not change your value one bit... it's not even part of the equation.
If you're not a man... this is for you. Everyone is valuable... Period. Everything said about men above is applicable to everyone. The only reason it was worded with a focus on men here was because of the attached article.
The ManKind Project - Posts
https://www.facebook.com/theManKindProject/photos/a.332736768627/10151675297878628/?type=3&theater
"Choice" is missing from the article. It exhaustively describes loving acts but doesn't once talk about what MAKES them loving... Choice.
I can cite any characteristic from the article and turn it into either a good or bad thing by changing the underlying choice for doing it.
As an example, the first item cited as a good quality for a man:
"He cleans up after himself."
This is deceiving, and I'll prove it.
If a man cleans up after himself because he knows it is a good choice for him, that is good.
If a man cleans up after himself only because he is told it's a good choice for him, that's bad.
Making reactive choices is wrong... it makes them conditional. Making choices in an unconditional way is what makes an act truly valuable... the independent selflessness... the unconditional nature of it. This characteristic is not something that can be forced. For a man to become selfless, he must first be treated selflessly. That is how he learns how to be that way... by having others do it to him.
If you are a man, this is for you... Your value is not based on what you do or don't do for others. You are valuable... Period. Your choices do not change your value one bit... it's not even part of the equation.
If you're not a man... this is for you. Everyone is valuable... Period. Everything said about men above is applicable to everyone. The only reason it was worded with a focus on men here was because of the attached article.
The ManKind Project - Posts
https://www.facebook.com/theManKindProject/photos/a.332736768627/10151675297878628/?type=3&theater
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